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I wear dress shirts, mainly plain colored, dark green, dark blue, near black (dark gray I reckon) etc., shirts -- I wear, always, off-white dockers or slacks that are similar to dockers, but mainly dockers.
I listen to all music, mainly punk rock, metal, alternative rock etc., but I also listen to everything else (and when I say everything else I actually mean everything else not just in the genre of rock but country, r&b, jazz, new age, some but minimal religious music (mainly only those that don't judge others) blues, rap, blue grass, classical, etc.,) and these two girls that live next door were looking at me strangely because I am currently wearing the dark green dress shirt and off-white slacks (dockers) and listening to NIN and they just don't see it.
I have friends that wear gothic clothes, have piercings and multiple tattoos, I don't wear gothic clothes, have piercings or multiple tattoos (or any for that matter) some of them wish for me to dress the way they do because, apparently, I am an embarrassment to them in public because I dress like a 'prep'.
I have friends who dress as 'rebel punk rockers' etc., and they want me to dress like them, etc., apparently their clothes define who they are -- and in some manner of speaking I reckon my clothes define who I am or was or what not but not by music or even society outlook (apparently) ..
I have dated girls who were gothic, who were punk, who were what society deems as 'normal' etc., and I didn't judge them for any of what they wore, what piercings they had, tattoos, etc., but they always judged me.
Why?
When I was young I wore 3rd generation hand me downs, my shoes were bought from Publix supermarkets, I got my 'brand new clothes' at goodwill or salvation army, my family was poor (then) they couldn't afford to buy 'brand' name clothes. I have never owned a pair of nikes or adidas or anything such as those.
I wear black work boots and have for many years, and yes I wear them with my off-white dockers and dress shirts and they look and feel just fine.
Perhaps I wear the clothes I wear today because of the clothes I wore yesterday, the ripped jeans and the shirts that faded, now I have "new" clothes, "clean" clothes, have been wearing the "basic" same outfit for over 10 years and I am comfortable in wearing them.
I don't feel I have to wear what I listen to, what or who others perceive I am (bad boy/rebel/non-conformist) to wear.
They're still my friends, but when we go to parties, or out to clubs, or what not, they are embarrassed and I can see it in their eyes and I feel they should just get over it.
Does what you wear define you? Have your friends tried to get you to change what you wear to suit their needs?
Have you conformed to them? I haven't, never will, I dress the way I like, I listen to what I like and it all comes out fine.
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Well I’m more or less the same. I was never really allowed wear brand name clothes, and always had hand-me-downs (usually I thought that they were pretty snazzy, to be honest). And now I don’t particularly care. I went through a metal-head phase a while back and ended up with a few t shirts from that, which I’ll wear even though I don’t like most of the bands. But usually I’ll end up in a blue shirt and jeans. So, yeah, I did conform once. Then I grew up.
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Comfy
I wear anything from casual to dressy. Jeans, pants, skirt, dress, shorts, etc. I can look like a slob, or like a ‘million bucks’. Most of my clothes are second hand…I can’t bring myself to pay all that money for new clothes.My college class has a dress-code…business casual, so during the day, I’m in that, and at home it’s usually a pair of jeans and a dressy t-shirt.
I think that people should wear whatever they are comfortable in….as long as it’s not against their work/school policy(too much hassle there to even bother with)
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Fuck no
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No, but many people do naturally dress in a way that will reflect their interests. It can be hard not to judge, and many people do. It can be hard not to get sucked into all the trends, brands, hips and hops….but I manage, as do many others. Maintaining your individuality is so important.
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Resisting Attempts to be Defined
I know that men like me in "posher" clothes than I'd ever be seen dead in and will only wear for interviews – i.e. formal suits and dresses on the classy but sexy side. Female friends are always urging me to "wear something brighter." I don't get enough sun. Being naturally pale and dark haired the only "bright" colour which suits me is red.I just like to wear my little skirts and tops with a pair of favourite boots or shoes. I have a couple of soft tracksuits for walking on the beach in, but they don't make the most of my "little figure."
Most probably I have too many dark jackets and not enough accessories. I am financially better off now than when I was younger but don't think it has improved the way I dress. I'm usually very sceptical about things other people think I should wear!
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If your friends are "embarassed" to be seen with you because of the way you dress, it sounds like you need new friends. They'd dump you in a heartbeat if they felt you were judging them.
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I tend to wear whatever looks good on me which i feel comfortable in.
I dont think they define me.
I have my ears pierced in 3 places, my eyebrow pierced and pitch black hair.
People judge me by these assuming that i am trying to be popluar by having piercings when really i have them because i feel unlike me without them. -
Yes, I think our wrapper reflects what is inside. From what I've studied, it apprears that is the general consensus of the psychiatric community as well.
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I think that to judge a person by their outer appearance is just dumb. Can one spot a liar in a three peice suit or perhaps jeans make them less dependable.
I basically wear what I like when I like it and my likes are subject to change. The only time I adhere to any type of dress code is when it is required by the establishment I am entering, for instance a work place. Sometimes I am criticized for not being --in style--, but frankly if the current style makes me look in the mirror and say,--WHAT A DORK-- I don't care to wear it.
The only thing I hate worse than simply looking like everyone else to win their approval are designers that tell me what to wear and then require that I give them my money to look --appropriate--.
If you like the look on you, then wear it. If you don't then by all means don't shell out your money for things you hate. If friends are so shallow that they can't see past your clothes, then it is their loss. Unless you are trying to get a job or make a stand within the limits of a particular community, looks mean nothing. There are times it is wise to use things like fashion to your advantage, and there is nothing wrong with doing that. But remember, your clothes are a tool for you to use and not something that should use you. On the same note, real friends don't use your style to make themselves look better within the realm of cliques and inner circles.
A real friend might say ack I hate your outfit, but it won't have any bearing on whether or not they want to stand next to you in public. -
Me
In a way yes, it defines you as what complete strangers may look at you as. But to close friends who know you it doesnt necessarily define you or categorize you like most labels. I personally am called a poser goth. I love black and red! and would wear black and capes and heels and chains and piercings all over if i could...but my mom restrains that from me. A LOT! but moms are supposed to do that. She just is embarressed i think of who i want to be. I'll never really be me. But anyway i end up as this girl wearing jean guy shorts like a tomboy and a black shirt and sweater. Thats me...yea and my stupid red hair that I want to put majenta highlights in....thats NEVER gonna happen. I am also not for tatooes. They are permanent till your oooold and wrinkley. But piercings go away unless you stretch something. I like a bunch of piercings on lips, eyebrows, ears and nose. Personally i want to get a lip piercing. In 7th grade i pierced my hand...not a good idea HAHA
Yea i'll quite fukin babbling
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i hate people that judege you by the way you look. it seems just stupid and juvinile. i always say 'just becuase i dress like a slut doesnt mena that i am a slut'!!
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