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Recently its been hard for me to think about relationships because I get so depressed. About 1 1/2 years ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. Now we're best friends, and there is definitely still a connection between us- he's acknowledged that fact as well- but he's been seeing other people. Which I know is a good thing, even if it is frustrating for me.
Anyway, my point is that I get very depressed whenever I think about it, because its tough to go from a situation where you feel so loved and important to one where there really isn't anyone who cares about you like that in your life.
So I was wondering if anyone had any kind of advice. General, thoughts, whatever. I'd be glad for it. Because I'm getting sick of just distracting myself all the time. -
Let it burn
It didn’t work between the two of you for some reason. You tried it out and it didn’t work. Forgive him, forgive yourself, don’t blame yourself, and put one foot in front of the other. Just about everyone goes through this and they get through. You can too. -
I didn’t know it was that rough between you…
Hmm..I remember when I went out and then broke up. I was lucky in that I found there was no real emotional bond between me and him. (Of course I can’t speak for him, but that’s how I felt.) Everything he did began to irritate me.
After we broke up we didn’t speak for close to a year. I felt he hated me, though I wasn’t really sure why since we both agreed that a break-up was the best thing to do.
I think it’s over now. We see each other time to time and chat. Much less stress.
Perhaps what you’re feeling is a combination of being with him for so long that he became a pillar to lean on, always there for you, and seeing him drift away from being your friend. And I’m sure the latter isn’t true.
With my lengthy knowledge on relationships, I’m probably not the best person to advise, but I wouldn’t try to ignore it by distracting yourself. Take a bit of time to examine your feelings, being honest with yourself. Ask yourself what you want/wanted, feel/felt and how things are going. Decide what you believe/think/want/feel. Don’t make his opinions/actions paramount in this self-search.
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Let Go
You are still desperately clinging on to the relationship that you once had.You have to face the fact…it’s over.
You’ve been lucky enough to have remained friends. But where as he has obviously moved on and is seeing other people, you are foolishly just hanging onto the past and you will ultimtely only end up getting more hurt, just hanging around on the fringe of his life watching him with other girls.
Get on with your own life and start dating other people. If remaining close friends with your old boyfriend is stopping you from doing that, then maybe you need to rethink your continuing friendship with him. Ask yourself if you are simply afraid to experience new relationships and are just hiding in the comfort zone of the familiar.
Have the confidence and courage to walk away from your past, as only by letting go can you ever move on and be truly happy again, which is what you deserve.
Kat
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alone forever is the way to die
i went thru life looking for love and thought it could realli be i guess i was wrong i guess it was all just a lie he told me he loved me he told me he cared but who the fuck cares! he made it up it was just a fucking lie well i moved on to this one gurl she said we had something real specail she said she saw herself with me forever but i guess she saw wrong the next month only felt like a day she left me for a guy who i hated and wanted to kill well i moved on she wasnt that big of a deal but she still told me lies later on i realli thought i loved this guy he was sweet he was nice and i never had sex with him i was still untouched but he left me no he just went far away i cheated on him with another guy i was no longer untouched but i was a skank i broke his heart as i felt just fine and i didnt care for him cause i didnt feel the same way ive been thru alot and many have fallen for my crule broken typed up heart but i just used them i guess you can say i just needed to feel loved with out having to feel the same but i fell for someone i fell for them hard i didnt want him to hurt me i didnt want him to leave me so i left him first i made that mistake a few times leaving him then relizing that i loved him now hes someone eles and i love him i want to be his wife i want to have his kids and i want to spend my life with him but he dont want me back so i guess ill just die along so goodnight while i just die
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no company is as companiable as solitude
no company is as companiable as solitude -
work that shit
friends with benifits...comes in handy sometimes -
I think you should distract yourself by doing other things. Take up a sport of hobby to keep yourself occupied.
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Allan
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