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my ex boyfriend nick, hes loved me since 3rd grade, long stories, but i was soo sure he loved me, hed tell me all the time, and with me it was different than every other girl, i knew that...but recently i broke up with him because i had a feeling hed be happier without me...i was right, and all of a sudden he only loves me like a sister, and i still love him...and everything he said to me seems to be lies, i mean we talked about marrying eachother, everything, we were both soo sure, i still am sure..but hes not..and he 'doesnt want a girlfriend right now'...and hes gone for 2 months now, and he just left, and he never calls me anymore, and when i call him i cant seem to find the words i need to get off my chest...he knows i still love him, ive told him...and im just heartbroken...but i dont want to move on...i just want to know your opinions on this...
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Been in those boots
I think it's sad that you broke up with him just because you thought "he'd be happier without you" - sweetheart, you deserve happiness as much as the next person, you should never sacrifice your feelings. I've been there, and the only thing I can recommend is to move on and get him completely out of your life. If you like write him a poem or a letter expressing your feelings and saying your goodbyes (you don't have to send it) - it'll just help finalize that it IS over. It's been 2 months now...
Time to move on and share your life with someone new. No use in wishing for him, when he only sees you as a sister - you owe it to yourself to move on!
Yes I know it's hard, but keep your head up and your heart open and strong.
All the best.
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thanks, and we only broke up about 2 weeks ago, but hes going to be gone for 2 months (sorry for the confusion).....but i dont want to let go of him...a part of me does but a part of me doesnt, but i know when school starts again that its going to be the hardest time of my life...because ill get to see him, 5 days a week, for about 7 hours...and i dont know if ill be able to just be around him, and know that he doesnt want me, know that we probably wont ever be anything more than just friends....but i dont want to give up...i still have a chance when school starts...that is if the pain itself doesnt kill me before he comes back to me...
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Oh I'm sorry I misunderstood, you poor thing no wonder you're still in so much pain.
Well the only thing I could suggest is to speak to him one last time and if he yet again says he's only interested in you as a friend; then you need to respect those wishes, you can never make someone love you (no matter how much you try to do or change).
I've often compared break ups to:
If you've ever had a pet and they suddenly get severely ill. You need to decide do you try keep it alive as you do so with a slither of hope, or do you end its (and your) suffering. For me its always been that same level of gut wrenching pain.
When it's time to go back to school tell your friends how you're feeling so you can arrange a support group for yourself. Of couse I'd be a liar if I told you it's easy - but once you've accepted and faced the pain, I promise you it'll be easier to move on.
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