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Instant Message Time: To be or not to be…alone?
At night, logging into my instant messenger and my friend, R3Dvodka23(don’t me about that screename) logged with her “serious issue”. Me, as Midnightlil, we talked and made me think of something.
Midnightlil: What’s up?
R3Dvodka23: what do ya mean wats up?
R3Dvodka23: NUTHIN”!
R3Dvodka23: I’m bored as helllll
R3Dvodka23: =[[[[
Midnightlil: Didn’t you spend time w/ Rick 2day?
R3Dvodka23: He’s out somewhere
R3Dvodka23: He said he call me
R3Dvodka23: =[
Midnightlil: ohh….
Midnightlil: what about your other friends?
R3Dvodka23: They out somewhere too
R3Dvodka23: They coming back when summer’s over
R3Dvodka23: Got nuthin’ to do
Midnightlil: do what you like to do
Midnightlil: DUH!!
R3Dvodka23: there ain’t shit to do around here
R3Dvodka23: I hate doing things by myself
Midnightlil: What’s wrong with doing things by yourself?
R3Dvodka23: wats the point of the doin
R3Dvodka23: if you got no one to be with you
R3Dvodka23: especially when you doin crazy shit.
Midnightlil: So you are saying all the things you do
Midnightlil: is to entertain people?
R3Dvodka23: that’s what makes it fun
Midnightlil: ???
Midnightlil: so you need an audience you see what you’re doing?
R3Dvodka23: kinda
R3Dvodka23: wats wrong with that?
What’s wrong with that? Here’s my question: Why do people need an audience to show they are having fun? More importantly, why do people don’t like being alone?
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very good question indeed...
Thought provoking...I myself enjoy my privacy, I will start to get uncomfortable and edgy if I'm with people non-stop for more than 24 hours. I generally prefer to have this time to myself during the day b/c when you're alone at night time there is always this inner loneliness i think that people feel once they have had the comfort of another lying next to them and become accustomed to it. Then the time alone for me gets to be TOOOO alone for my tastes, it reminds me how big the world is when it seems I'm the only one awake in the late hours of the night b/c I do not live in a big city. I think being alone, like almost everything else in the world is a good and bad thing, of course this all depends on personalities, their past, what they do in their privacy, and what their privacy means to them, etc. etc., should be evened out with a comfortable balance for that certain individual, that's my personal take on this. Hope that was something close to what you were loking for or had in mind...thank you for inquiring. and hope to talk to ya soon.
TTYL
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i don't mind being alone...
in fact, there are really times when i prefer to be alone...that is because when i'm alone i could read all i want or when i'm alone at the mall, i can go to the bookstore and to shops and eat anything that i want without having to depend on somebody...i'm used to walking quite fast (i was a news reporter and lived a quite hectic pace to my days), so when i go out...there are really times when i prefer not to have somebody with me because i hate waiting up for people who can't keep up with me...don't get me wrong, i'm not an introvert...because when i do go out with friends or be with my family, i am usually quite animated and noisy and i always have a tale...but, for me solitude is good, too...you know, not to sound corny or anything, but it makes you get in touch with your inner soul...as i have always loved to write and draw, i was always known to treasure times when i can write my thoughts, sketch or just read a book...so, yeah, why are there people who don't like being alone? there are many things that one can do to have fun even when there is no company around... -
yes i agree but...
there are also times when people can't be alone, well not that they can't but they don't want to b/c of something rather dramatic...such as a death in the family, or any other tragic incident that would cause somebody to want to be comforted. There are also times when people are just plain lonely and when you crawl into your bed alone everynight that tends to dwell on people and it can have a very big effect on their overall attitude and emotions towards the rest of the day. It almost controls how they feel and dictates what kind of person they will be that day. I've seen it happen many times and I've recently been going through it. But as they say, and it's true as far as i've experienced, that TIME will heal all wounds. So I just take it one day at a time, well actually the days are alot easier than the nights, so I should say that I take it one night at a time and hope that this pain will go away.
TTYL
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each person is different, i guess...
yeah...there are really times people don't like to be alone, especially when they've been through tough times...but, all i can say is that this differs to every person. because when my sister died, i could only cry when i was alone...i could only express my feelings more when i'm alone in my room and looking at her pictures...it's when i've been through quite difficult times when i treasure my alone time more...i'm married and i could call on my husband anytime i'm sad, right? but, he knows just when i need him and when i want to be by myself...so, you see, being alone and not being alone really differs with each and every person... -
yup
There are always right and wrong times for everything with anybody, everybody is different and that's okay. The sooner the WORLD realizes that then the more peace we will have.
TTYL
MM
PS. I think we're the only ones talking about this subject LoL doesn't anybody else care to chime in?? -
hmm...
maybe being alone or not being alone is not that important a matter for everybody...except for those who likes solitude... -
hey, sorry to take a while in responding.
Sorry for not repsonding. BEen a bit too busy with some things. The two of you have excellent views and good reasons on why being alone is good thing. With the whole world bashing out on us, who wouldn't want to go into their own private oasis where no one can bother you. The issue i see a lot with some people I know is that they don't like to enjoy their lives alone; they always need someone around to know they are enjoying life and willing to make an image on what people think of them. Solitude is not a bad thing, unless taken on a high dosage. Same thing when it comes to being too social. Being too social can loose you off track on what you have to do and can be sort of a blockade in your dreams because there is more "talk than doing the walk." -
i hate being alone
And I don't mean actually alone, but feeling alone. Like, I can be in a crowd of people, friends and what not, but still feel alone. I like the thought I'm actually with someone, there's somewhere there who really values my presence. -
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yup
I know the exact same feeling. Been there plenty of times, I guess without realizing it for a while I was hanging out in that crowd and surrounded myself with friends that are all like that. You feel only as important as to what or how much fun you can bring them at the time of the party, but after the fun is over, whatever it may be, you feel left out, used, and cheated. But most of all you feel alone. It's a sad feeling and You described it perfectly in your one sentence.
TTYL
MM
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I am also someone who needs to be constantly connected with people, the selective people ofcourse sharing the same minds and comfort zone..for its all about sharing and giving that truly gives in the happiness and pleasure..relative though..Yeah but overdoing it does keep you off track at times and we begin to lose focus on ourselves..Its imperative that one unwinds the mind chatter and the people off for a while and get some time for him/herself to retain in that peace and happiness..but again you need someone to share in the feeling whatsoever...On a philosophical note, there is always an interdependability in life..the twosome and dualities of life says it all..One obviously cant live all by himself with none around
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I don't mind being alone
See I think its great to be alone sometimes, or course not all the time just sometimes. It allows time to be alone with your thoughts and it gives you the illusion of peace. Being by yourself, you can dig into who you really are and who you want to be and you can find the person you've been missing for years. Being alone gives you the chance to escape from the world and to create your own place of peace. Even if you just rearrange a room or wash the dishes, or do some laundry, time alone gives you time with yourself instead of with everyone else around. It's another escape from everyday life.
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